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Author: Creating Responsible Children & Adolescents - A Website for Parents & Teachers
My many years of teaching, parenting, and researching have taught me that we adults can not expect responsible behavior unless we are actually teaching our kids HOW to become responsible. Teaching is so much more than merely telling and explaining; it involves a process. This site is all about that process.
Professionally I taught high school English for 25 years and dabbled in middle and elementary school teaching. Meanwhile, I earned a master's degree in School Counseling (K - 12), and a doctorate in Professional Development. I followed public school teaching with college teaching for 12 years. Today I teach seminars and courses in teaching kids of all ages how to become responsible.
Personally, I have 3 grown daughters, 9 grandchildren, and, 1 great grandbaby. I've learned a great deal about teaching kids how to become responsible, and I'm here to share it with you.
That Attitude of Entitlement
It’s that “I deserve to have anything I want” demanding tone of voice. It’s that “You are here to serve ME tone of voice. We’ve all seen it and heard it – maybe from our own kids, their friends, students, even from young employees of a business; in fact, it seems to be rampant among …
Listening To Our Kids – Real Listening – Teaches Them HOW to Deal With Disappointment and Move On.
This is a reprint from October 20, 2018. Edit Post Switch to draftPreview(opens in a new tab)UpdateAdd title Your 5th grade son didn’t make the “A” soccer team this spring, and you’re furious because he’s been a really good player ever since he started playing in kindergarten, and he was on the A team last year! …
Could my child or my student’s “troublesome” behavior be caused by a problem with his vision?
(This blog is a reprint from 2018) Have you noticed your child (or student) becoming frustrated easily – especially when she’s doing something that requires visual concentration – like homework or reading? Or maybe he tries to avoid reading by fidgeting with everything on the desk or by clowning around or even by yawning and …
As the song goes, “Freedom Isn’t Free”
Kids lament, “ I can’t wait to grow up so I can do anything I want.” Adults know better. We know that to have freedom of independence, we have to follow the rules or live with the consequences. We have the freedom to drive wherever we want, but we have to go the speed limit …
A Zoom Course in The Art of Mindful Communication
If you have an interest in learning more about the communication skills discussed throughout my blogs, you can register for my Flagler College mini course. It is scheduled for 6 Monday evenings from 6:30 - 8:00 starting on Monday, March 8 and running through Monday, April 12. The cost is $49.00 and you can register …
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I Would Do Anything I Possibly Could For My Kids.
Most parents would agree with that: we’d donate an organ if our child needed it; we’d run in front of a speeding car to push our child out of harm’s way; we’d go without food if it meant our kids would be able to eat—we’d take a bullet if it came to that. But these …
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Why Parents and Teachers should never ask “Why”
“Why” robs children and adolescents of their responsibility. Consider the following “Why” questions: “Why didn’t you do your homework?” “Why haven’t you cleaned your room?” Now, let’s see how such a common type of question leads to irresponsible behavior: Why didn't you do your homework? I had practice after school, and then I had to …
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“Good job,” “Be nice,” and Other Meaningless Things We Say To Kids
Mom says, “Now play nicely.” Dad says, “You boys stop fighting.” The babysitter says, “She was such a good girl today.” Teachers write on student papers, “Good work.” Just what does good mean to a child? Or, for that matter, what do, nice, kind, fight, naughty, bad, and any other broad and, to a child, …
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Parents are asking,“How Can I Tell If My Kids Are Really Learning Something In Online Classes?”
I’m hearing from many concerned parents who are more and more worried about online classes. They wonder if their kids are taking their work seriously and really learning what they’ll need when they return to in-school classes. These are critical and deeply important concerns, so here are 2 strategies that effective teachers use in every …
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