August 15 Book Release


THE ART OF MINDFUL COMMUNICATION WILL BE HELD AGAIN OCTOBER 2021 – NOVEMBER. Location and Times will be announced on the Flagler College LifeLong Learning Webpage. See below for course description.


FLAGLER MEMORIAL PRESBYTERIAN CHURCH WILL BE HOSTING A 3 WEEK SEMINAR IN MINDFUL COMMUNICATION. it will be Wednesday evenings in November 2021. For details, please contact Flagler Memorial.



THE ART OF MINDFUL COMMUNICATIONS will be held on Zoom Monday evenings 6:30 – 8:00, March 8 – April 12 (6 weeks). To sign up, go online to Flagler College Lifelong learning Program. Once there, click on Personal Enrichment, and you can sign up online. Cost is $49.00.

COURSE DESCRIPTION In the best of times, a conversation with family members, colleagues, or friends can turn into an unintended power-struggle. Add to this situation recent events in politics, business, and entertainment media, and we are more and more finding ourselves embroiled in conflict instead of conversation. Surprisingly, many of our commonly accepted ways of talking to one another inadvertently promote conflict. This is a timely and essential course for everyone.

Among the topics included are

#1. The two most important ingredients of every conversation

#2  The most important skill for defusing a potential power-struggle

#3. The skills for ending an uncomfortable conversation.


The best part of the course was “learning to develop dialogue that is mindful of the person I am communicating with.”

“Thank you for a great class.”

“The most useful part was applying the methods you presented.”

“How about offering a followup course?”

“The visuals really help me to see ways I can recognize and avoid unintended word battles.”

ZOOM WORKSHOPS: I invite you and your group to schedule Zoom workshops or a course on Parenting. You can contact me at Dr.j@responsiblekids.org, and we can design a custom workshop.



(A six week course at Flagler College Lifelong Learning Program)

Mondays, 6:30 – 8:00 P.M.  January 6 – February17, 2020

Please check with Flagler College to learn the next session to be held



Mondays, 6:30 – 8:00 P.M.  October 28  –  December 9,  2019         

A Six week Course at Flagler College’s Lifelong Learning  

JANUARY 7 – FEBRUARY 18             


A Six week Course at Flagler College’s Lifelong Learning – Monday evenings, 6:30 -8:00

 MONTH OF FEBRUARY – Wednesday evenings

Creating Responsible Kids (4 SESSIONS) 

These four 60 minute sessions will be held at the Memorial Presbyterian Church in St. Augustine.   The topics for each week are the following:

Week One

“How to Create Totally Irresponsible Kids, or Six Steps To Do the Opposite:  Building a Plan for Parenting

Week Two

“How to Short Circuit a Power-Struggle With Your Child or Adolescent”

Week Three

“Natural Consequences, Logical Consequences, or Punishment – How C an Parents decide Which to Use?”

Week Four

“How to Teach Kids to Solve Their Own Problems With Friends, Siblings, Teachers, and even Parents, Without Doing It For Them”

OCTOBER 25, 2018                                                               

                                                  Creating Responsible Kids  (1 session)                                 

This 90 minute interactive seminar will introduce participants to 6 ways we (parents as well as educators) create irresponsibility in our kids and, most importantly, what we can do to change that.

It will be held from 6:30 – 8:00 at the Center for Spiritual Living,  St Augustine, FL    Registration is limited to 15 participants, and you may register by emailing tongilamanly@gmail.com   For additional information, please contact Dr.j@responsiblekids.org or phone # 301 639 5846.

  Feb. 24 , 2018             Dealing With Difficult Conversations   

This session will engage participants in learning and practicing three of the most important skills for carrying on a rewarding conversation on any topic, thereby lessening the potential for difficult conversations to turn into power-struggles. (Attendance is limited to 15 participants, so please register early.)

Saturday, February 24 from 1:00 to 3:00 pm

Center for Spiritual Living, 1795 Old Moultrie Rd.  St Augustine

March 15 , 2018            National Association of Professional Development Schools

Dr. Holmes will be presenting a teacher workshop on the topic of

Defusing Conflict to Develop and Maintain Our Partnership

Open to all Conference attendees.